In recent times a noticeable trend has emerged.Young women are showing a preference for dating older men commonly referred to as “Wababaz”over their age-mates. While love knows no age, there are several reasons why this dynamic is becoming popular among younger women. Maturity is one of the primary reasons. Many young women, especially Gen Z, say that men their age often lack emotional intelligence and long-term vision. Older men, by contrast, tend to be more emotionally upright, financially secure, and experienced in handling relationships making them more appealing as partners.
Financial independence also plays a role. The current generation is facing a lot of challenges such as economic uncertainty and high costs of living which makes some Gen Z women find comfort in partners who are more established in their careers and can offer a sense of stability. This isn’t always about money it’s often about security and the ability to plan a future with someone who has already navigated the challenges of adulthood. For Cheptoo, it’s all about money”Well of course we choose wababa because they are stable mentally and they have money,you know money is everything.These boys aged between 20-35 have no money and they know nothing about love all they know is kupiga luku with small small money the get”. Said Cheptoo, a 23 year old lady. “Again we don’t just go for any random mubaba they come in different types. Personally, I prefer dating one between 45 to 65. They truly understand how to love. ” Added Cheptoo.
Moreover, older men often exhibit better communication and commitment skills. In an era of ghosting and casual hookups, many Gen Z women are looking for meaningful connections and find that older men are more intentional in relationships compared to Gen Z guys. Many young men express mixed feelings about young ladies dating older men. Many see it as driven by financial gain and not emotional stability as some young ladies claim. “These Gen Z ladies have standards. They want a luxurious lifestyle that we, as young men, can’t afford to give them. That’s why they go for wababa because they are financially secure ” Said Ernest.”There is nothing like security or experience in handling relationships,these buddies go there for money” Added Ernest.
Finally, the influence of social media and pop culture has normalized age-gap relationships, portraying them as sophisticated and aspirational by showcasing them in movies, music, and influencer lifestyles. These portrayals present such relationships as mature, luxurious, or emotionally stable. As a result, younger audiences begin to view them as desirable or even a symbol of status and success.
While not all Gen Z women are drawn to older men, there is a growing number of who suggest that emotional maturity, stability, and genuine connection often outweigh age when it comes to matters of the heart.
Written by, Charity Papai
