Radio 47’s Chemba Show host Dr. Ofweneke, has sent shockwaves across social media with a jaw-dropping confession about the collapse of both his marriages and this time, he’s not sugar-coating anything.
During Thursday’s show, in an emotional and unfiltered message, the beloved comedian and media personality stepped away from the punchlines and put the spotlight on his own personal failures as a man.
“I Was a yes husband. I failed!”
“Ndoa ya kwanza makosa nilifanya ni nini? I was not man enough to be in control of my marriage. I became a ‘Yes Husband’. I did not provide leadership. I failed!”
Ofweneke didn’t hold back in describing how emotional immaturity, fear of conflict, and over–romanticizing love contributed to the fall of his first marriage.
“Mwanaume hapendi na roho, mwanaume anapenda na akili.”
He explains that being too emotionally invested without direction cost him his role as a leader in the home. And when things fell apart?
“Nilitoka, nikapack nguo zangu nikaweka kwa booth ya gari nikaenda… nikahamia sijui wapi hapa Ruaka.”
This wasn’t just heartbreak—it was rock bottom.
“Ndoa ya pili Ilikataa kwa sababu ya ulevi wangu”
While the first marriage was marked by emotional weakness, the second one was ruined by alcohol.
“I was too much of a drunkard. I come home late, nalala juu ya hangover. I was not spending time with my wife.”
Dr. Ofweneke admitted how his success came with financial freedom and that freedom came at a cost.
“Siku zangu za umasikini ziliisha, so nilikuwa na pesa ya pombe and I was always drunk.”
When arguments arose, his solution was always the same run to the club, get drunk and wasted.
“Kitu kidogo nakimbia club… ati ohh tumegombanishana, naenda dunda, nakuja saa kumi na moja asubuhi.”
This lifestyle, he admits, destroyed his ability to communicate and function as a partner. Worse still, it began affecting his wife too.
“Unajua wanawake wanafanya zile vitu sisi bwana zao tunafanya, hata yeye mwenyewe pombe ikaanza kumlemea.”
“Men, it’s time to stop lying”
In a powerful moment of reflection, Dr. Ofweneke turns the spotlight on men who are stuck in cycles of denial:
“Can we stop lying, say the truth? When you say the truth you start working on yourself. You start healing.”
“Hakuna vile mwanaume unalewa kila siku. It is wrong. I will tell you—it is wrong!”
“I messed pp… and that’s the truth”
“Hata yeye ako na makosa yake alifanya, mimi siabiki. I was wrong. I messed up.”
There’s no blame game here. Ofweneke owns up fully, refusing to point fingers at the mothers of his children.
“Mimi kama Dr. Ofweneke, siwezi kutembea nikiwabebesha mama za watoto wangu makosa yoyote.”
Ofweneke was married to gospel singer Nicah The Queen, with whom he separated in 2016. They continue to co-parent their two children.
In 2019, the comedian introduced Christine Tenderess , to whom he proposed in 2021. The couple parted ways after three years. The comedian and Christine have one child together.
Ofweneke is currently in a relationship with Mariam Baraza, whom he publicly introduced as his wife in July 2024.
